Do you want to manage the stress of infertility?
Are you ready to overcome guilt and shame?
Have your hobbies and goals sat on the back burner as you try to get pregnant?
I relate to all of these questions. Intimately. My answer to all these questions was a resounding YES.
Of course I felt that way! And I think most women struggling with infertility, childlessness, trauma and unconventional womanhood would answer yes as well. We all share similar fears, stress, and shame. And a complete upheaval to our lives.
We are truly in this together. And yet none of us know about each other!
And why is that? Because shame and embarrassment keep us hidden and alone. I know that I didn’t speak about my infertility for years. I had close family members and friends who had no idea.
I didn’t speak up because I didn’t want to be pitied. I was ashamed. And embarrassed. And I guess that at the end of the day, I didn’t want to freaking talk about it!
My heart felt completely exposed. And raw. I had a sense that I needed to slow down and bring myself back from the obsession of getting pregnant to a more centered place.
But I COULDN’T. I didn’t know how.
I couldn’t slow down because I feared that if I paused for even a brief second, I’d completely fall apart.
So I relentlessly moved forward. I ignored the warning signs that my stress levels were dangerously high.
The pressure I felt to get pregnant was really too much to bear.
But bear it I did. Month after month. Year after year. Without reprieve. The only thing that mattered was dedicating every waking second to researching and analyzing how to become pregnant. Nothing else mattered, including me.
My struggle with infertility lasted many years. So many years in fact that I was forced to learn tactics to keep myself sane. I searched for help. Desperately. I reached out to friends and professionals for guidance.
But what I really needed and eventually found was the ability to calm myself every day. I needed to get control of my all-consuming thoughts about infertility. These thoughts had taken over my entire life.
I finally found relief through doing the journal exercises found below and THEN getting the tension out of my body through yoga. These 2 things went hand in hand. Writing was the key ingredient in helping me find ME again. But it wasn’t enough to stop there. Physical movement was crucial for getting the accumulated stress out of my body. I found a shelter and safe place away from infertility on my yoga mat.
The ONLY GOAL of the journal exercises and Yoga Sequences I created was to help myself get through infertility and to the other side in one piece.
And to do this, I used the framework of the Yogic Chakras as my guide.
What the hell is even a Chakra you may ask? It all sounds very “new agey” and cultish you may think. Let me put your mind at ease. The Chakras are NOT a religious system. This framework was developed thousands of years ago as a recognition that different areas of our body carry different types of energy.
Great power also resides in the Chakras. The power to heal. The power take back your life. And the power to restore YOURSELF.
We’ve been given the tools necessary to heal our own lives through these Yogic Chakras.
Let’s start with the 1st Chakra, our foundation.
I have titled the 1st Chakra “Explore YOU” because that is exactly what we’re going to do. After all the dust has settled, and here you still stand, let’s discover who you are now.
So join me dear one. I honor you. I honor your strength and courage. I have a very deep faith in YOU. In your ability to heal and come back to yourself. Hold your head high. Because there is no one stronger than you. Truly. Those who pass through the fire of infertility possess so much dignity.
I know you. I am you. Let’s come out of the shadows. Together. Because there is no shame found here. We are formidable and powerful. And also feminine and soft. The Divine lives within us all.
Sending you peace and love