Every single person on this planet struggles with a little abusive person in their head at times.
A voice that tells them they’re not good enough, skinny enough, or smart enough. In fact, this little voice has something to say about pretty much everything!
Luckily, we don’t have to believe this voice. We can choose a different path. This voice in our head is not “bad” or something to be rid of. It is just an energy. We can mold and direct this energy into a more positive direction.
We have been given this voice to help us problem solve and look out for danger. But it often goes into overdrive and cannot downshift due to trauma and habitual patterns.
And then much of what is said inside is based on the foggy lenses we all view the world. Much of what we perceive or believe, about others and OURSELVES is simply not the entire truth. And some of it are just outright lies that serve to keep us stuck in a never ending victim loop.
Thankfully, even if you have very low self-esteem, there is an inkling deep down inside about who you truly are.
And that person is glorious.
So what we’d like to reinforce and affirm is who you truly are. It might be hidden at the moment, or a little muddied, but it’s there.
And you know it.
So how do we reinforce the truth of who we are? Self-Affirmations..
Some people use self-affirmations right away when they get up in the morning. Others do them before big meetings or when they catch the internal abusive person in a lie.
All great tactics!
So here are some self affirmations to get you started. Add on to this list to include one’s that feel specific for you. And by the way, these are all TRUE of you. It would be awesome if you truly believed each characteristic here. And it’s definitely important that you FEEL the truth in them.
But hey, even if you don’t, you can rest assured that one day you will feel it. Because that’s how truth works. It’s persistent. And always gets its way.
I am enough
Infertility does not define ME
I am worthy
My gift is important to this world
I am a warrior
I am valuable just by being me
My worthiness is not defined by parenthood
I am smart
I am beautiful
My body is perfect
I am strong
I accept myself
I am Divine
I am feminine and womanly
I am whole
I deserve good things in life
I will be successful
Everything will be ok
I will be alright. Always
I am patient and kind
I can get through anything in this life
I am worthy of love
I am safe
The entire universe is behind me
I am calm and peaceful
I love _______ about myself
I am more than enough. Always have been. Always will be.
And please remember, this is not some creepy new age shit. You’re simply reinforcing what is already TRUE about yourself. You’re redirecting that unpleasant voice in your head to speak love.
And if you’re like me, believing and repeating abusive self-talk has not worked. At all.
It is not motivating like we believe it is. It is purely harmful.
And what I personally like to do is use self affirmations when I’m in a anxiety loop. I tell myself:
“Jessica what you’re NOT going to do right now, is obsessively worry. You can say positive self affirmations, but you’re not going to worry.”
Focusing my mind on another train of thought, one that is TRUE and nurturing diverts my default worry mindset.
So feel free to just test it out at first. At the very least redirect harmful thoughts to neutral thoughts. So instead of saying:
“I love my thighs“
“My legs have carried me far in life.”
This is absolutely a great alternative if you’re not “there” yet with all the positivity!
Just keep trying. That’s all that’s required of you. Truly.
Sending you lots of love and light dear one.